We have been created for relationship, with God and with others. If we experienced loving relationships with others as we were growing up, finding a place where we were safe and nurtured, then forming close bonds is probably easy. However, if our closest relationships produced a great deal of pain through abuse or neglect, we probably experience a lack of close bonds in our adult life.
Jim Wilder says, “…the human brain is designed to be in loving and reciprocal relationships. Humans thrive when we are connected to the people we love and who love us. It is in loving connections with safe people that we become who we are designed to be—as God originally intended.” (Joyful Journey, Listening to Immanuel)
Because of a lack of close bonds, may Christians maintain a life of surviving instead of thriving. Weak or stress-filled bonds are characterized by a lack of frequent interactions and the negative quality of those interactions. Perhaps you have a relative or friend with whom you rarely talk and when you do, the words you hear are hurtful.
Some might decide that God is the only safe relationship and distance themselves from all others. But the truth is we need healthy human-to-human relationships. Romans 15:5 entreats us, May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you a spirit of unity among yourselves as you follow Christ Jesus, so that with one heart and mouth you may glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.
God can and will take the bad things and work them into good for those who love Him. He has done it for me. He wants to do it for you.